05/07/2022

The Underground Marketer Podcast

Episode 63 – Eliminate Your Fears and Get Started with Aaron Marcus

The Underground Marketer Podcast
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Episode 63 - Eliminate Your Fears and Get Started with Aaron Marcus
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Take the First Step Towards Your Dreams

In today’s episode, I welcome Aaron Marcus. He has been a full-time actor for 36+ years. Aaron has been cast in nearly 1,300 acting and modeling jobs. He was cast in the soon-to-be-released Netflix feature White Noise, HBO mini-series We Own This City, A Man Called Otto (Tom Hanks), and worked on the ABC pilot Heart of Life. He also worked on the feature: Irresistible, Amazon’s show Thespian(recurring), and also had a recurring role on the Netflix shows House of Cards, Gotham, Mr. Robot, Do No Harm, Law & Order: CI, The Wire, to name a few. In addition, he also helped thousands of professionals and business owners develop their soft skills through his online mentoring programs. He is here today to share his experience and inspire you to get started and take risks. 

3 Big Ideas

  1. “No” doesn’t mean “never”. Just focus on yourself and keep moving forward.
  2. Enjoy yourself during the process and try to learn something from every experience and interaction. 
  3. Don’t take things personally. If people are rude to you or try to discourage you, that’s on them, not a reflection of you. 

Show Notes

[01:32] Aaron introduces himself. 

  • Growing up, he had no intention of being an actor. 
  • He started working part-time as an actor while he was a full-time student to become a physical therapist. 
  • He realized he loved acting and he was getting booked. 
  • He decided to give it a shot for one year and, as they say, the rest is history. 

[04:08] Aaron talks about how he turned acting into a full-time career. 

  • He says that the key to being successful in anything is to get started. 
  • Many struggle with fear of failure, which can really hold you back from achieving your dreams. 
  • A lot of people spend all their time taking classes and learning the theory, but they are too scared to actually put it to practice.
  • Classes are a good investment, but you have to be willing to take the next step and test it out in the real world. 

[06:50] What’s holding you back?

  • For a lot of people, it’s fear of failure. 
  • Most people like to visualize the result, but that never worked for Aaron. Instead, when he goes to an audition, he walks in knowing he’s not booking the job. 
  • The secret is to have no expectations and be realistic. Don’t even think about it.
  • Don’t put additional pressure on yourself. Others can smell desperation from a mile away and no one wants to work with uncomfortable people. 

[10:15] How to overcome your fear of failure. 

  • Your #1 goal should be to enjoy yourself – have a good time! This will make you much more attractive to others.
  • Your #2 goal? Try to learn something from the experience. 
  • Feeling nervous is not a bad thing. Acknowledge your nervousness and harness that energy to your advantage. 
  • Try to take some deep breaths and relax, but don’t force yourself to eliminate your nervousness – accept it!

[16:50] The art of having low expectations. 

  • Tudor says that this is an uncommon, but good mindset to have. 
  • Aaron gives an example of a salesperson – if someone is desperately trying to sell you something, it’s off-putting; if they are relaxed and don’t push you, you are more likely to buy what that person has to offer. 
  • We all try to sell ourselves to others and you have to understand that not everyone will want to buy your personal brand or your product. 
  • Being rejected is not a reflection of a deficiency in you. Just keep going! 

[19:33] You cannot control the actions of other people, but you can control how you respond. 

  • Aaron says that he has 100% control over his audition. But he has no control over the final decision. 
  • The decision to hire him is based on a multitude of factors that are out of his control. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get a callback or book the job. 
  • Even if you do a bad job, be compassionate to yourself. You’re just human and you did the best you could during that day. 
  • Most times, we beat ourselves up more than anybody else. We are our own worst enemies. Take what you’re feeling with a grain of salt. 

[25:37] How to deal with irrational feelings of nervousness. 

  • Try to have low expectations and don’t put pressure on yourself. 
  • Ask yourself: Why are you scared? You’re not going to get the job anyway. 
  • Enjoy the process. What’s the worst thing that can happen? 
  • Not everyone we meet will like us and that’s fine. Don’t worry too much about it. 

[27:51] How to work with people who you don’t get along with. 

  • Never take things personally. 
  • Remember that this is a business associate, not a friend. 
  • Sometimes people are just nasty or they just have a bad day. Whatever it is, it’s not about you. Try to side-step the issue, don’t become confrontational. 
  • Don’t base your self-worth on how well your business is doing. Feel good about yourself and try to be a decent person. 

[32:40] Don’t tie your self-worth to things that are outside of your control. 

  • For example, many people tie their self-worth to being successful, having money, or a nice car, but those things are temporary. 
  • Financial success without happiness or fulfillment is pointless.
  • You should be incredibly proud of yourself just for giving it a shot. To Aaron, that alone is success. If it works for you, even better. 
  • Don’t listen to what other people have to say. 

[33:38] Some people may not want to see you succeed.

  • This is why it’s important to never listen to what other people have to say. 
  • Usually, it’s the people closest to you who discourage you the most. 
  • The ones who want to discourage you are usually the ones who didn’t have the courage to do what you’re doing. 
  • Focus on following your own path and living a life with no regrets. 

[39:18] How to be more open to taking risks. 

  • Aaron never had a steady paycheck in his entire life as he always worked as a freelancer. 
  • He could have lived that steady, safe life, but he realized he would not have been happy. Acting was exciting. 
  • He recognizes that it’s hard to get started, but you can start gradually and convert to full-time later. 
  • His advice is: start small, test things out, and check-in with yourself constantly. 

[43:40] You don’t need to have everything figured out to get started. 

  • Aaron has never been a goal-oriented type of person. He just went with the flow and things worked out well so far. 
  • Tudor also never had a real job or the safety of a monthly paycheck. His desire to have freedom and be his own boss was stronger than having safety. 
  • He had to learn along the way and make money out of necessity, but money was never his main motivation. 
  • Aaron can empathize with Tudor and adds that it’s important to figure out what makes you happy and do just that. 

[46:38] Aaron’s tips for dealing with procrastination. 

  • Ask yourself: What is preventing me from doing this?
  • Try to use your acting skills – basically, fake it till you make it. 
  • Create a character that might help separate you from those uncomfortable feelings. 

[49:00] How to appear more confident in front of a camera. 

  • If it’s something you’re struggling with, you should contact Aaron and allow him to teach you how to feel more comfortable in front of a camera. 
  • If you are uncomfortable and it’s showing, it will be very difficult to present yourself to the world in a positive way. 
  • People will be able to see your nervousness and your lack of confidence. 
  • Aaron’s advice is to think about the people in your life that you care about as that may translate as kindness and confidence in your eyes. 

[52:13] Aaron’s top resource recommendations for developing your soft skills. 

  • While Aaron is a full-time actor and model, his mission in life is to help people. He has a virtual private mentoring program
  • Contact Aaron, read about his mentoring, and check out his Youtube channel. 
  • During his career, he helped many people develop their confidence, team working skills, and communication skills. 
  • He can also help you become more comfortable in front of a camera.

[54:25] Closing remarks.

  • Aaron really loves reading non-fiction books about people and history because it opens up his mind. 
  • He likes learning about the world and other people’s experiences. 
  • Aaron also loves traveling and these books help him appreciate humanity in a new light. 

Recommended Resources

Aaron’s Website 

Aaron’s Online Mentoring Program

Aaron’s Youtube Channel

How to Become a Successful Actor and Model by Aaron Marcus

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Introduction    00:00:03    Marketing, explosive growth, and revolutionary secrets that can catapult your business to new heights. You’re now listening to The Underground Marketer Podcast with your host Tudor Dumitrescu, the one podcast devoted to showing new businesses how to market themselves for high growth.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:00:24    Welcome to the underground marketer. This is the place where we deliver the real truth about marketing and explore big ideas that can help new businesses thrive and grow into big ones. I’m your host Tudor. And today it’s my honor to welcome Aaron Marcus. He’s been a full time actor and voiceover artist for 36 plus years, and has worked on over 1,289 projects, including ABC’s TV Pilot Heart of Life, Gotham House of Cards, and many more. In addition, Aaron has also helped thousands of professionals and business owners develop their soft skills through his online mentoring programs. Welcome Aaron.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:01:09    Oh, it’s so great to be here with you Tudor.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:01:11    That’s fantastic. I’m really glad to have you, and I hope that we can learn a lot from you. So to start with Aaron, you’ve had a very interesting career. Can you tell us a little bit about how you got started and involved with being an actor and voiceover talent and really what you’ve learned from it so far?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:01:32    Yeah, that’s a great question. And to make it pretty short for a lot of actors, they grew up knowing this is what they wanted to do. I had no intention of being an actor. I really never even thought of it. I actually was planning on being a physical therapist. I needed a part-time job to support myself in school. I met an actor, he told me what he did and I thought, well, that sounds like fun. Mm-hmm <affirmative>. And so I start doing this work on a very part-time basis while I was a full-time student college student. And I did that for two years and I found that I really loved doing the work. Uh, it was fun for me and I actually was getting booked. And so I decided to not pursue physical therapy and I decided to give acting a shot for one year on a full-time basis just to see what it was like, if I still enjoyed it, mm-hmm <affirmative> did I lived the life of a freelancer and not have a steady income. And so that was 36 years ago.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:02:35    Wow. That’s really fascinating because I mean, I’ve had some friends, myself who are, uh, in the acting business and a lot of people, apparently these days are struggling, but it seems that you’ve found a way to make it work quite quickly.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:02:50    Yeah. Well, I wouldn’t say quite quickly, like with any kind of job, it does take time and unlike becoming a doctor where you graduate from medical school and you start working right away. Well, it doesn’t work that way. Mm-hmm <affirmative> in lots of businesses where a degree doesn’t guarantee absolutely any kind of work at all. I mean, I’ve done jobs with people who’ve graduated from Yale drama school mm-hmm <affirmative> and they tell me that a lot of their fellow classmates are hardly working mm-hmm <affirmative>. And so, you know, once again, this really relates to lots of different kinds of businesses, but it’s not just a matter of having a degree and it’s not just sometimes it’s not even a matter of just being really good. There are other factors involved that really allow some people to have success in the industry and others not have success.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:03:39    That’s fascinating. And I think that that’s true, not just enacting in pretty much any other freelance profession and also in business. I mean, business just involves some other people, but ultimately you’re still on your own and you have to find a way to make it work. So I’m just curious here, Aaron, what would you say was the key or perhaps the keys to getting those first jobs and turning this into a full-time career for you?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:04:08    Yeah, that’s a great question to it. Or so I would say the most important key and, and once again, pretty much everything that I’m talking about through the, you know, the eyes of an actor really is connected with all kinds of businesses. So the number one key for anybody who wants to have success, and I know this is gonna sound a little silly, but it’s absolutely true is to start, is to get started. And the reason why I know that is so true is because I’ve been in acting classes, like when I first started with people and these people were professional class takers, mm-hmm <affirmative>, these were people who never got out of the classroom, never jumped into the industry, never really tried to get work. And, you know, that happens for a lot of people. And I, and look, I’ve also been hired by some companies to help some of their workers. And so I see that there is a fear of failure for people. There’s a fear of just not having any success. And that can really hurt someone from getting started in something that they are thinking about, dreaming about fantasizing about, but they just don’t pursue it.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:05:30    Absolutely. I mean, what you said marked me about the professional class takers, because I mean, in business, I see the same thing nowadays. There’s so many courses out there and even in our community here, we have people who have taken so many courses, you know, they spend $10,000 or more getting so much education, but they’re still struggling to do exactly what you said, which is actually get started.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:05:58    Oh, I’m sorry. I was just gonna jump in there and look, I just wanna make it really clear. I’m not saying just like, you’re not saying don’t take classes, you know, don’t learn, of course, you’ve gotta do that. That that’s an investment that is part of your business expense of being as educated as you possibly can be, but you have to be willing to take that next step and actually use that information and test it out in the world.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:06:25    Absolutely. I mean, this is exactly what I was going to ask you. So my question was going to be, what do you think is holding those people back from actually taking action? That’s number one and number two, how can they actually go about overcoming that? And if you have any personal stories that you can share about doing that yourself, I think that can be quite inspiring for our audience.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:06:50    Yes, absolutely. Like the biggest block for people, the reason why so many people don’t pursue whatever it is that they’re interested in, it’s fear and it’s the fear of failure. And you know, it’s really interesting. I have a very different take on this and, and look just because I’m telling people, this is what I do. I am certainly not saying this is the only way to be successful. The only way to do things. I’m just sharing with folks in this world, how I have been successful. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, that’s all. And there might be other people who do things very differently and they might have tremendous success for me. When I go to an audition for whether it’s a feature film, whether it’s for a voiceover, a narration for a television show, a commercial mm-hmm <affirmative> doesn’t make any difference. I go into the audition knowing I’m not booking the job.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:07:46    And I know that sounds so crazy to some people, they say, well, how can you have such a negative attitude going into an audition? There are other people who, Hey, look, whether it’s with sales, which is essentially what I do. Look, I’m an actor. I also do. It’s called commercial modeling, which is, it’s not fashion modeling. It’s modeling for real people. So when they need the doctor for a pharmaceutical ad, I’m the guy, they need a patient. I’m the guy, they need the social worker, you know, whatever it is when they need a real person, that’s what I do. But you know, the point is some people use this philosophy and I’m not saying it’s wrong. It didn’t work for me. I tried it. They like to visualize mm-hmm <affirmative>. And maybe before they’re going to knock on somebody’s door for a job or to sell something, they visualize their success.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:08:36    So for me, some people will visualize walking through the red carpet for their Grammy, because they’ve just been nominated for an academy award mm-hmm <affirmative>. And they find that that helps them really have more confidence during their audition. For me, it’s just the opposite. I tried it. It was embarrassing to me. What I do is, and I’m not, it’s not like I’m a negative guy. I don’t walk around saying the sky is falling and I’m horrible. And nobody likes me and I’m never going to work, but I’m also realistic. And I go into the audition and instead of thinking, oh, I’m gonna book this job. And I’m gonna look at everybody in the casting room and say, Hey, you know what, guys, you might as well go home, cuz I’ve got this job. I take a very different approach. My approach is I am not even thinking about booking a job.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:09:24    That’s not a goal for me. My number one goal for every audition that I have is enjoying myself. I wanna have a good time. That’s it. Now I might be traveling four hours to get to New York for an audition and four hours on the way back. And I will spend maybe two and a half, three minutes in front of a casting director. That part of it is not so much fun. Traveling eight hours for three minute audition. Mm-hmm <affirmative> however, although in today’s time period, I have to say if there is anything positive to say about what’s going on in the world is that most of the auditions are done at home. I don’t have to travel for auditions, but by having my goal, just enjoying myself, you know what? It’s a Wednesday afternoon. I get a chance to act. That’s fun for me for every audition that I go on.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:10:15    My number one goal is having a good time. My second goal for every audition is can I learn something from this? Did I feel like I did everything that I prepared to do? If the look, matter of fact, here, you asked for a real situation. So, uh, there’s TV commercial. And I don’t wanna mention the name of it, but I got a call back. And so yesterday I had to call back and now I’m reading live on zoom with the director and the casting director. And they said, do what you did the first time. And then we’re gonna play a little bit. And then I was asked to do some different things. And when I finished, I actually thought to myself, I’m not really sure. I’m not a hundred percent sure if I did everything that the director asked of me, some of the things were a little unclear.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:11:04    I stopped and asked a couple things and then I kind of backed off a little. So, and look, it doesn’t mean that I’m not going to get it because of that, but I didn’t walk out of there thinking, you know what? That was great. I did everything that I wanted to do. It’s something that I learned and, and look, I’m still learning, been doing this for a long time, but I always still learned, I wish I would’ve asked a couple of other questions just to fully understand what the uh, director was looking for. And so the second goal is to learn from the experience. Like I said, sometimes I walk out, I really like what I did. Sometimes I go, eh, maybe I didn’t really take in what was being asked of me or whatever it is. And the third thing is, look, if I happen to book the job, which I don’t really anticipate, that’s icing on the cake and the reason why I go in thinking that, and this will kind of lead into your second question about how to deal with fear and nervousness is that unrealistic.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:11:58    I understand how many people are initially auditioning for a project. There are quite a few now for this particular callback, there are only two of us. So it was down to, to two people out of hundreds of people who submitted for this. So maybe a 50% shot. Cause sometimes they might even go outside of the two people they called back, who knows. But one of the, one of the ways that I deal with nervousness is by not putting that additional pressure on myself of, I gotta book this job, I need this job. I’m gonna get a chance to work with a famous actor. This is gonna be a high paying job, whatever it is. If you start thinking about needing to land that job, needing to get that contract, you’re just adding additional pressure on yourself. And I can also tell you that casting directors and I’m sure CEOs at, at companies who are hiring, they can smell desperation a mile away.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:12:57    They know they can sense when somebody is nervous and that’s not who they wanna work with. They’re gonna wanna work with and buy things from somebody who feels comfortable, who seems to be having a good time. Somebody they would like to spend time with. I’m not saying you have to be in love with other people in the business in order to work with them. Look, there are agents I’m not so crazy about there are casting directors. I’m not so crazy about, but I still work with them. But I do believe if you don’t add that additional pressure on yourself for having to book the job and having to look great and having to sound great, just enjoy it. And I think that makes you much, much more appealing. Hey, think about it. If you’re going out on a date with somebody, you wanna have a good time with the person and not put additional pressure of, Hey, is this the person I’m going to marry for the rest of my, you know, spend the rest of my life.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:13:52    I think that having just kind of flipping your frame of mind and not putting that additional pressure on yourself makes it a much better experience. And the one other thing I would add to your second question, as far as dealing with nervousness is, and this is something that I tell everybody, whether it’s private sessions or workshops, don’t get rid of your nervousness. And I know a lot. I know that sounds a little strange, cuz most people say, well, you can’t show your nervous. Well, I’m not saying you show it, but if you feel nervous, I don’t think that’s a bad thing. You know what we’re doing? Whether it’s an audition or you’re selling a product to somebody selling your services, it can be scary. And what I do is number one, I acknowledge it. I will actually acknowledge to myself that I’m feeling nervous about this.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:14:40    And that happens to me as many times as I’ve been on sets and auditions, there are certain auditions working with certain actors. That’s when I was working with Dame Judy Dench in a film, I was scared to death. I, I don’t, I don’t mind mentioning it. I don’t mind agreeing to, I was scared. This is Judy Dench and I’ve got a scene with her and I’m scared to death. So instead of getting rid of it, trying to block it, what I do is I harness that energy. I acknowledge I’m nervous to myself and I try to use that nervousness to my advantage. And I find that when I am nervous, I have a tendency to speak a little bit faster and I kind of lose touch with what I’m trying to do a little bit. So what I do is I take some deep breaths before.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:15:30    And once again, this is all in private and you know, people are watching me do this, but, and I’m sharing it with you all, but I’ll take some deep breaths. I let the air out slowly. I’m not trying to get rid of the nervousness. Cuz I find that nervousness actually can help my audition. It can help my performance. But what I’m trying to do is harness that energy. I just let the air come out out of my mouth and I count to eight letting it out slowly. And I find that little tingly feeling is still there, but I don’t feel quite as wired as I did before. So sometimes just doing little breathing exercises can be helpful to people too. But if you are nervous, you’re human it’s okay. Don’t you know, don’t, don’t bang yourself over the head with that and just try to use it to your advantage.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:16:17    A ton of value though, in there. So I’ve taken very detailed notes. So we’re going to go through everything. The first thing that you said they, I’m not looking to get booked. Uh, when I do this audition, it’s very interesting because I’ve heard this response from two business people as well. Last year, actually a similar response. One of them built a very large tutoring business and the other one owns a very large landscaping company. And both of them said that when they started in business, they had really low expectations. They didn’t really expect it to succeed, but it did. And personally, I’m also this type of person. I also don’t expect things when I first start them to necessarily be successful. That sort of emerges along the way. And this is fascinating to me because I do think that most people aren’t like this and most people are the opposite and they have to think that it’ll be successful to do it. But again, it’s fascinating that this response occurs to somebody who is outside of business as well. I just find that very interesting.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:17:27    Yeah. And you know, but, but you know, if you think about it, if you are a customer and somebody is selling you, they’re working really hard. It leaves a bad taste in your mouth. If somebody comes to you and says, Hey, look, this is what I have to offer. This is what I can do that will help you, but not pushing you, not hitting you over the head with it. Not making it difficult for you to <laugh> you know, to say, no, mm-hmm, <affirmative> just someone who’s pleasant and someone that you wanna spend. Why wouldn’t you wanna learn more about what this person has to offer you? So to me, once again, a lot of the things that I do as an actor, which is a business, my business is it’s not as far away from other kinds of businesses. As people think, look, I’m a salesperson. I am selling myself at every audition I go on, I am selling myself and I know you didn’t answer this, but it just kind of popped into my head. You know, the other thing too is you have to understand, not everybody wants to buy you. Not everybody wants to buy your product and it doesn’t mean that your product isn’t great. It doesn’t mean that it’s not helpful for whatever reason. It’s not the right fit for that other person. And that’s okay. And then you just go and knock on somebody else’s door mm-hmm  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:18:44    <affirmative>. I mean, this is extremely valuable because we do have a lot of people who are dealing with sales and who are looking to increase their sales. And there is a lot of procrastination around that and also anxiety, which we’re going to talk about in a bit more detail. But before then, one of the big lessons that I took from your story so far, and from what you’ve said is that you need to set goals that you can control. For example, in your case, you cannot control. If somebody is going to give you a job, but you can control if you have a good time. And if you learn, which are the two goals that you set for yourself. So personally, this is one of the big lessons that I took out of it. I don’t know if you would put it quite in the same words, but I think it’s very important for our listeners.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:19:33    And you said something really important. You talked about control and you are a hundred percent correct. I have 100% control over my audition. You know, just like a business person. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, somebody’s selling something. You have a hundred percent control over your pitch, over what you’re trying to sell. You have no control over a final decision. And so for me, I realize that I get hired or don’t get hired based on so many different factors. Maybe I’m too tall. Maybe I’m not tall enough. Maybe I’m too. Well, I can’t say I’m ever too attractive, cause I’m not an attractive guy. So that part wouldn’t wouldn’t fly, but maybe I will too much like the star of the project and they don’t wanna bring in, you know, another character that looks too much like this person, maybe I remind the, you know, the director of her ex-husband who she can’t stand and doesn’t wanna be around.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:20:26    So there are just so many factors that go into getting the job, getting the sale and you’re right. We have no control over that. And so that’s why I don’t beat myself up. If I don’t get a callback or I don’t book the job. And even if I do a bad audition, which happens sometimes look, we are human. And look, even if I were, were a neurosurgeon, some days I’m not gonna be as good as other days now, hopefully even a bad day for a neurosurgeon is still a really good day <laugh>. But the fact is we are human. And, and if I, if I don’t do what I wanted to do in my audition, I walk out of there and I say, you know what? I did the best I could in that particular situation. And I got through it. I didn’t have a hissy fit.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:21:20    I didn’t start crying. I didn’t melt down. I didn’t run out of there in tears. I walk out of there and this is something I think is also helpful. Even if you find that you’re making a pitch to somebody and it’s just, you’re just not doing a good job that day. Don’t let other people see that you walk out of every audition, every pitch with your head held high, that you just gave the greatest performance of a lifetime. Because what I find is that sometimes we beat ourselves up more than anybody else. And we might walk out of a situation like that and think, oh, I was horrible in there. And you know what, maybe you didn’t do what you wanted to do, but somebody else might have really liked what you did. And they might even say, yeah, it wasn’t perfect, but no, I really, I really liked it. But if you walk out with your head down and your shoulders shrugging and you’re apologizing and well, then, then they might start thinking, yeah, maybe it really wasn’t so good. So I think it’s really helpful. No matter whether you really liked what you did, whether you didn’t like what you did, you walk out of there in a really positive way. And that way you’re not telling somebody that you feel like you did a bad job.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:22:33    Mm-hmm <affirmative>. I mean, I think that very often with regards to this, we think that other people see how we are feeling many times. For example, when I’ve done public speaking, I felt very nervous and I felt that my delivery lacked confidence. But then if you asked other people, they would say that I sounded very confident and fully in control. <laugh> other people don’t necessarily see how we feel, even though we we’re sort of afraid that somehow they will see it.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:23:03    And actually it’s just a throw in a real experience. This is years ago, I auditioned for a TV commercial mm-hmm <affirmative> and I’m sure everybody can relate to this. There was a, the director was there and he was explaining things that he needed done in the read for this particular commercial. There are some people in this world for me, the person was speaking English, but I did not understand what the person was saying. Mm-hmm <affirmative> it was just a different way of talking. He was using analogies that I didn’t understand. And I was able to ask a couple of questions, but it was very clear to me that I had no idea what to do for this audition. Mm-hmm <affirmative> no clue whatsoever. And I just did whatever I could do, but I knew it couldn’t have been what this person was looking for. Cuz I was clueless.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:23:51    And the crazy thing was when I booked the job that cast the I’m sorry, the director said to me, he goes, Aaron, I gotta tell you interviewed. A lot of people saw a lot of people for the spot. You were the only one who got it. Wow <laugh> so, and I looked at him and meanwhile, I’m thinking, what are you kidding? I had no idea what I was doing in there. And I just looked at him and I was using all of my acting skills. And I said, well, I gotta tell you the way you responded to my questions. They were invaluable to me. So thank you very much <laugh> and so you’re right. It can be really difficult. And sometimes we are our own worst enemies and we will be really rough on ourselves. Like you were saying, sometimes you think I didn’t have confidence and I felt nervous and, and didn’t know what I was. And other people watched it and said, no, you were great. So yeah. And that’s why I’m not saying don’t analyze what you did, but sometimes take everything that you’re feeling with a grain of salt because it’s not necessarily how other people perceive it.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:24:50    Absolutely. Those are great points. We, you also talked about nervousness and how we shouldn’t try to get rid of it, but rather try to use it to our advantage. A lot of people, they think that nervousness is a bad thing because they think about a situation let’s say cold calling somebody and they think through the possible consequences and they figure out I’m not gonna die. Nothing bad is going to happen. The worst thing is maybe this person will shout at me or get angry at me. But somehow they still feel nervous. Even though it doesn’t make rational sense to them. So that’s what really leads them to blame themselves after which just makes it worse because they think my nervousness is irrational. So therefore it’s bad. What sort of way do you have to counter that?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:25:37    Yeah. And so this kind of goes back to what I said before. Hey, what’s there to be nervous about, you’re not getting this job anyway. Mm-hmm <affirmative> why are you scared? They’re not gonna hire you. Why, why are you scared? They’re not gonna buy your products. Don’t be scared. It’s not gonna work out for you anyhow. So look enjoy it. And you are, you’re also you’re right. So what is the worst thing they could curse at you? They could hang up. They could tell you, you know, leave them alone. Okay. That could certainly that could happen. But also remember this is not a personal friend that you’re dealing with. This is a business person, somebody you don’t know mm-hmm <affirmative> and look, we don’t have to be loved by everybody in this world and somebody who would treat another human being like that, which, and look, I realize it happens all the time.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:26:22    I see it in my business too. Casting directors who are nasty to actors or a director or an agent, sometimes people who are looking for representation and they get horrible things said to them, okay, well, you know what? The other thing that I think of is I’m just glad I’m not married to that person. <laugh> that’s all. And look, the fact is, and I think this is important to keep in mind. We do not have to be loved by everybody and not everybody is so nice. And I just look at them in those kinds of situations who might yell at you and you know, scream, boy, that’s a sad situation. Deliver your life like that. It’s one thing. If somebody said, Hey, look, I’m really not interested in the product. Best of luck to you. See ya. Okay, that’s fine. But when people act out, it’s their issue, it’s not yours. And so don’t worry about it.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:27:09    That’s fantastic advice. I noticed that you mentioned, uh, about directors sometimes being rough or nasty. I think that also happens in business. A lot of people that I know have issues, for example, they have a very big customer who is like 30% of their yearly revenue and they don’t treat them. Right. They treat them very badly, not just them as the meaning, the directors, but also their employees, but, and they don’t know how to handle that situation. So do you have any advice for people who have to work basically with people who don’t like them and who don’t treat them right. That you can share?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:27:51    Yeah. Hey look, the thing is you have to keep ’em on and, and look, and I’ve been guilty of this myself sometimes where I take things personally from people, I start thinking in ways as if somebody who I’m having a personal relationship with is treating me this way and I have to flip it and just understand, this is not my friend. This is not somebody who I’d like to spend a lot of time. This is a business associate who I might be doing a lot of business with. And so I don’t take it personally because it’s not a personal thing. Look, sometimes people are just nasty. Sometimes they’re having a bad day and you happen to be hitting them at a really bad time period. And they might lash out it’s to me. I don’t really, I think it’s a really horrible way to treat other people, but not everybody deals with the world in the way that I do.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:28:45    And I try to have respect for everybody. And I think the key thing is this is, and I, I know I keep saying this, but it’s true. This is not a personal relationship. It’s a business relationship and that’s different. So instead of saying, I really don’t like the way that you’re talking to me, that you might say to somebody who, you know, you’ve known for years, you just have to step back a little bit. And I’m not saying, I’m not saying that there aren’t times where you do have to stand up and say something. So you’re not being treated so poorly because there’s no excuse for that. But you, you do have to make that fine line decision as to whether you’re going to say something or not say something, but one of the things that I will do and I can feel it coming on from other people.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:29:29    And I try to sidestep it. Sometimes I just agree with people. <laugh> I find that to be really helpful if somebody is just on this rant and maybe I feel very differently about something than what this person is talking about. But once again, this is not my personal friend. This is a business partner here. And, and if it means doing psychological martial arts, then you do that. And if you need to step away from a punch that’s being thrown and you just move your head in another direction, so you don’t get hit, but you can still stay there. I think that’s a smart way to do it. So I think the most important thing is don’t take things personally, just like going back to auditioning for job or trying to get representation for an a, you know, with an agent. If I don’t get it, it’s not a personal statement about me, for whatever reason.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:30:22    I’m just not the perfect fit for this particular situation. And I think I’m a pretty nice guy and I treat people well. And if I don’t book a job again for the rest of my life, I think I still am pretty nice guy and treat people well. So no matter what happens with your business, don’t base your self worth on how well your business is doing. I think that can be a dangerous thing. And I’ve seen this happen in the acting world where you get people who have tremendous success. But the only thing that makes them feel good about themselves is the fact that they are successful. And they surround themselves with people who keep saying how great they are. And then at some point for a lot of people, especially for people who stardom just rose very, very quickly. Mm-hmm <affirmative> that starts to fade at some point. And when that starts to happen, you start to lose the people who want to hang around with you because you’re paying for everything and they’re just not there anymore. And you don’t have people screaming for autographs and having selfies taken with you. And all of a sudden, you start feeling bad about yourself because you don’t have the success that is a dangerous way to live. And so I think you need to try to feel good about yourself regardless of what’s happening in your business.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:31:45    I mean, this sort of goes to the previous point about setting goals that you can control. I mean, you should tie yourself worth to what’s ultimately in your control, if you tie yourself worth to things that aren’t in your control. And this happens very often in business, people can make a lot of money, all of a sudden, and they’re on top of the world. They buy the best car that they’ve always wanted. They buy a boat, whatever it is. But then over time they start losing the, the friends that they previously had. They don’t pay so much attention to their relationships and they start ending up feeling miserable. So I think that this point is very important because I think that success without happiness or without fulfillment is ultimately not worth it. It’s no point being successful if you’re going to be miserable. And the best way to avoid this, I think is to not tie yourself worth to things that are outside of your control.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:32:39    I think that’s a great point. And I think for a lot of people too, especially for people who are just getting started, whether they have success or not, I tell people you should be incredibly proud of yourself for giving this a shot. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, whatever the business is, just getting out there and taking the information that you have glean from the world. And you are absolutely out there trying this to me, that is success mm-hmm <affirmative>. And if it works for you, that’s wonderful. And if for whatever reason, whether you just don’t have the financial success to sustain yourself, because you wanna do this as a full-time job, or maybe you find that it sounded really interesting, but you really don’t know if you wanna do the day to day work like with acting, you are willing to put in the time and get the right materials and the right photos and travel the eight hours for a two minute audition.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:33:42    Maybe that’s just not something that you really want to do after you’ve really learned the realities of it. And then you can put it to bed and move on to something else. Because for me, and look, this is just the way that I work and maybe it’s not a good way for other people. But when I first started, I really didn’t have much in the way of goals. The only goals I had when I decided I wanted to try this full time for one year was number one, could I get work? Could I still continue to get work? Cause if this is my full-time job, that that’s really important. Mm-hmm <affirmative> and the second thing is, am I enjoying myself? Can I live as a freelancer? Can I live with the, with the knowledge that I don’t have a guaranteed income? And for some people that can be very exciting.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:34:27    You never know, from week to week, what’s going to happen for other people. It’s the most frightening thing in the world because they want and need a paycheck. You know, every week at the end of two weeks, they need to know how much they’re going to earn. So I needed to know that I was comfortable with living that kind of lifestyle. Those are the only goals that I had working. And am I enjoying it? Can I love my life this way? And for me, you know, when I was thinking about trying to break into the New York market, which for acting, it certainly is one of the biggest markets in the United States. It was really interesting. And I know I’m kind of heading into another area, but this, I think it really pertains to anybody in business. There were a bunch of people who would tell me, look, you live in a small market.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:35:15    They already have a million actors in New York. People were telling me they were afraid that I was gonna get my heart broken, that it was gonna be too difficult. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, I’m wasting my time. You’re somewhat of a big fish in a small market. Why would you want? And I thanked all these people for having concerns about my cardiac, uh, situation here, but I knew that I needed to try it. I knew that if I didn’t, I would always be wondering, I wonder if I could work in New York and the, the same thing for just getting started acting any, you know, in general, every time I watched a movie, I would be thinking, Hey, I wonder if this is something I could have done. If I saw a TV commercial, mm-hmm <affirmative> I wonder if I could have done and I could live by not having any success in my business.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:36:08    I could live with not getting representation in New York. I could live with not working in New York, but what I couldn’t live with was having those nightmares of always wondering what if I wonder if I could have done that. And what I did find is that there are people in this world who simply don’t want to see other people have success and they will give you all kinds of reasons why you shouldn’t do something. It doesn’t make sense. You’re taking such a gamble, you’re taking a risk. You need something more steady. You can’t bank on something like this. And sometimes, maybe it is coming from a good place from other people who are just concerned. But I did find, at least in my case, there were people who didn’t have the courage to try it and they didn’t wanna see anybody else succeed. They did everything they could to prevent me from doing it.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:37:02    And, you know, I realized it was a big move. I didn’t move to New York. I didn’t live there, but I commuted, which is kind of crazy too. But I knew that I couldn’t live my life, not knowing if I could have worked in that place. And also just knowing if I could work as an actor, I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night. And so if I failed at it, I could live with that, but I couldn’t live with not knowing and not by not trying. And I think that’s true for any kind of entrepreneur or anybody in any kind of business.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:37:33    I mean, entrepreneurship, it’s also about taking risk and I mean, what you did there was taking on a lot of risk and it happens all the time in business that people tell you that you’re not going to be successful. 98% of businesses fail and so on. And I’ve noticed not just in my case, but in other people that typically it’s the people who are closest to you, who, for some reason say these things to you. It’s very interesting because I mean, if you think deeply about it, for example, let’s say that your father was always too afraid to start his business. If you are to start your business now, and somehow you become successful, how is your father going to feel about himself? Right? So, um, this sort of shines light on why some people, as you said, may not want to see you succeed.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:38:28    It’s true. And it could be for look, like I said, it could be people who just are really concerned. You’re married, maybe you’ve got kids and you’re thinking, you’re gonna try to start your own business. You could have been, you know, an accountant working for a firm, and now you’re selling, you’re creating programming for software that you’re selling it really. You’re gonna do this on your own. You’re not gonna have the insurance that you would get and from the company. Yeah. I mean, and look, it could be from somebody who’s really concerned about you, but on the other hand, sometimes people just don’t wanna see other people succeed in this world. Mm-hmm,  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:39:01    <affirmative>, I’m curious now, because obviously you had to let go of your safety and the safety of having a secure paycheck to do this. So how did you go about doing that? Did it take courage or was it something that you sort of worked into gradually?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:39:17    Well, I’ve never actually, the interesting thing was, so I never became a physical therapist. I was about to apply to physical therapy school. And so I never had a steady paycheck in my entire life.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:39:30    You’re like me  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:39:32    <laugh> yeah, I never, I never have. And so, yeah, I mean, look, I was thinking, I mean, cuz I shadowed physical therapists spent 300 hours in orthopedic hospitals. So I knew what that world was about. And there were some very attractive things in studying the body, understanding how it works healing and helping people that those were really wonderful things for me and having a steady paycheck. That sounded incredible. But I just knew that actually I just started having dreams of being a very successful physical therapist, but not being happy and just kind of being bored with my work and the acting work that I was doing. It felt exciting to me. So it’s not like I honestly, it’s not like I gave up this, this job and, and threw everything in and look for a lot of people in the acting world. Most people I know do it on a part-time basis.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:40:27    And so I think for entrepreneurs as well, look, I think it would be, I think it would be a tough situation to give up a job where you have a family that’s dependent on your income to start something brand new and not have any kind of steady income. That’s a, that’s a difficult situation to be in. But you know, for a lot of people, they, they do it gradually and they don’t make that conversion to full time until they are seeing some kind of success. Maybe it’s not the success that you need to really live the lifestyle that you want and pay your bills and things like that. But we do testing all the time and I think it would be a good idea to start off small and test things out and see what works, see what doesn’t work, see what the realities are and then continue to check in with yourself.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:41:18    And is this a way that you can live your life? And if so then certainly I would say maybe gradually go into things more and more and more. But for me, once again, I was never a real goal oriented kind of person. It’s just not how my brain works. Like I know other people once again, perfect example, I have a really helpful pre-ACT and modeling, uh, YouTube channel and I, I post acting and modeling videos. Mm-hmm <affirmative> up there. So the one that I am about to post, I just finished shooting it. It’s about knowing your percentage of auditions to bookings. And I spoke with a couple of people and I know some actors, they have Excel spreadsheets and they list every audition, the date, the wardrobe they were wearing for the audition and whether they book the job and they could tell you all the percentages of auditions to bookings, it’s very elaborate and it’s very specific.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:42:18    And there was a time period in my life at the beginning of my career, I started doing that and I just found it doesn’t matter. It really doesn’t. And once again, going back to what we talked about earlier, there are just too many factors. Mm-hmm <affirmative> that go into booking and not booking a job and maybe your agent submitted you for a job that you’re not really right for, but the agent just wanted to add one other person who doesn’t fit the category of that character just to give the casting director another choice, which they probably won’t go with. So that’s gonna skew your numbers. <laugh> if you’re really trying to do that. So in this video, I just talk about how to me, it it’s a waste of time, essentially for me, once again, I, I don’t wanna bother with it. And so yeah, I have never been a real goal oriented person and I I’ve never thought, okay, well this year I need to book this many jobs and I need to have, you know, these mm-hmm <affirmative> kinds of high profile types of bookings.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:43:15    So I just find that I keep my heart open. My brain is, uh, constantly searching. I’m learning new things and I kind of just take things in and if it feels like I need to do something different, I will, if it feels like I like what’s going on, I stay with what I’m doing. And so I don’t have that engineer type of brain where everything is calculated. And once again, not good, not bad. That’s just how I do it. So, no, I, I never really had specific long term goals and things like that. I just kind of go with the flow of things. And so far I’ve been pretty fortunate.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:43:51    Mm-hmm <affirmative>, that’s really fantastic. And thank you for sharing about your YouTube channel. We’re going to have that down in the show notes so that our listeners can check it out. I have, I think two more questions, but before we get there, I mentioned earlier that you were like me because I also never had a job. And I find it fascinating when people ask me about how the differences of having a job to running a business. Because I never knew what having a job is. Like I wanted to, I basically got started in business not to make money to start with, but just because I wanted to be in charge of myself and not have somebody tell me what to do. That was my motivation. And, uh, <laugh>,  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:44:35    That’s a good motivator.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:44:37    Yeah, exactly. So <laugh> out of that then of course, then I started to make money and all the rest of it. But basically I always learned that unless I go out there and I do some hunting, so to speak, I don’t have anything to eat and I never know the opposite. I never know. I never learned the safety basically of having a paycheck,  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:44:57    But tutor, you know, something, you said that so interesting. You started it. Wasn’t about making a ton of money. That wasn’t a goal for you. It was really more of doing something that fit your lifestyle mm-hmm <affirmative> and something that you knew would make you a happy person. And I think that is such an important thing for anybody who is trying to start a business when I’m mentoring people. If I hear people talk about, well, so what made you, you know, interested in getting started in the acting or modeling industry? Well, I wanna be famous. I wanna make a lot of money. You know, I wanna own a couple islands in the south Pacific, you know, I just I’ll pause and I’ll say, you know what, let me just tell you, there are a lot of better ways of trying to make money than by doing this. And if that’s your goal, you know, is to make money and get the notoriety, I think might wanna check out some other things. And so I, I just thought that was really interesting that the, you know, the money was not the number one motivator for you.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:45:55    Absolutely. I mean, I think that money by itself is not a great motivator. Uh, you need something that actually motivates you on an emotional level. And I mean, I always share, I always share this with people. I have one more question now that I wanted to ask you about procrastination, because I know that a lot of the people in our community deal with procrastination, especially when they have to do cold selling to whoever, especially if they’re going to be an important potential customer. Do you have anything to help people deal with procrastination and basically stop procrastinating and move into the state of mind where they can actually go forth and take action.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:46:38    I wonder if, well, number one, I would probably ask what is preventing you from doing this? That would be an important thing for someone to answer for themselves, but here’s something else maybe try to use your acting skills. And what I mean by that is look in my personal life. I’m really more of a shy person. I could be at a party and I’m just the guy standing in the corner. I’m not running around telling people, oh, I worked on this project and I’m an actor. And I, I’m just a quiet guy and like talking with people, but I’m not the life of the party. However, if I need to, I can be the person who jumps up on the table and starts dancing. I do have that ability. It’s just not in my DNA. So maybe if there is somebody that is uncomfortable, they’re feeling nervous about it.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:47:33    Once again, ask yourself why and try to figure that out, but maybe take on another personality when you’re making these phone calls. Maybe it’s not just you, it’s a character from a movie and that might help separate some of that uncomfortability and allow you to just do it. There are some very famous actors who talk about, they really didn’t know who they were as human beings, everything they did, they were a character. And, and so not say that’s a great way to live your life necessarily, but that might be a really interesting approach for someone and really adopt another character when you’re making these phone calls. Mm-hmm <affirmative> and maybe that will help calm you down a little bit because you feel like, well, it’s not me, you know, it’s, it’s this other persona who’s making these calls. Mm-hmm,  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:48:26    <affirmative>, that’s really fascinating. And related to this, I also had a question because a lot of people inside our audience are doing things that have to do with online marketing. And a lot of them have to create video content either for ads or for YouTube. So there is some nervousness there and, um, fear that they don’t appear confident in front of the camera. Do you have any advice for that sort of thing that people can use and basically apply right away to make a difference?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:48:59    Sure. Well, one thing they can do is contact me and we can have a session and I can help walk people through the process of how to look comfortable in front of a camera, where to look when you’re doing your video, what kind of lighting setup do you need? What kind of microphones and things like that. But this could be a podcast all by itself. Just how to create an effective video for somebody. Because if you don’t do this properly and you are uncomfortable and it’s showing in the video, it’s very difficult to present yourself to the world in a positive way. Mm-hmm <affirmative>, people can see it, they see the nervousness and you’re supposed to be the expert in this field. And you look so uncomfortable. Why would I think to hire somebody like you? I don’t trust you when you don’t exude that confidence.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:49:54    So in a couple of words, as opposed to, you know, doing a full session in a couple of words, I would say, think about people in your life, who you care about, and that hopefully if you like these people <laugh>, then, then that will translate into this kindness, uh, this confidence in your eyes, cuz one of the things that I do for a modeling job, I actually will look away from the camera. And it’s a whole technique that I use. And once again, for people who are interested in doing still shots for whether it’s a brochure or for an online presence or a thumbnail or whatever it is, we, we, you can get in touch with me and we can talk about it. But what I do is I will actually look away from the camera. I will say a word or two that helps bring a certain emotion running through my brain, which comes out through my eyes.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:50:49    And it might be something as simple as you’re good. And then I’ll look into the camera or boy you’re successful and then look into the camera. And when your brain is actually feeling it, it just sends that information throughout your body. And it helps you look confident and approachable and believable and someone that other people want to work with and be with. And that is such an essential part of having success by showing the confidence, whether it’s in a still shot or in a video and without it, it’s gonna make your sales so much harder.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:51:30    Mm-hmm <affirmative> thank you for sharing that Aaron, and for the very kind offer. I also wanted to ask you if there are any sort of training programs or resources that you have that people could purchase. And if so, who exactly should be looking into them because you see in my view, these soft skills and it’s really about emotional mastery and effective communication are the keys to success in pretty much every area of life. If you ask me and they transfer just as we saw from acting to business, from business to relationships and so on, do you have anything of that kind that you would want to share with our listeners?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:52:13    Thank you for asking. I do have, uh, virtual private, online mentoring programs and I think the information will be listed, but if mm-hmm <affirmative>, here’s the simplest, the simplest address, you can just go to how to model.com H O WT O M O D E l.com. And on my website, you can not only contact me. You can read about my mentoring programs and you can also click on the YouTube icon. You can go to my channel, but yeah, I’ve helped people in business. I’ve helped. The last thing I did, I worked with an architectural firm and they’re going out and pitching projects to people. And I sat down and I worked with a lot of the employees teaching them how to work better together, how to be more confident when they are making pitches. And it was a really a very effective thing. And even the CEO was having this huge award and he was being featured in a architectural magazine and he told me, I look horrible in pictures.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:53:12    I always look stiff. I look uncomfortable. And so we did a session and I saw his photos. He looked great. And so even for people who say, well, I just don’t, you don’t take pictures. Well, you can, you really can. And I can show people how to do that. So yeah, please visit my website. You can get to me directly. I’d love to share information with you. And like I said before, yes, I’m an actor and a commercial model, but I help people in all different facets of business, including even doing voiceover work or narration for people, whether it’s their, you know, website or videos or training programs.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:53:50    That’s awesome. Really appreciate you sharing that. Aaron, I’m going to make sure that all the links are available in the show notes so that our listeners can have easy access to them. I have only one final question. And this is something that I just ask all the guests, because our audience is always curious. Do you have a top five books or resources that really helped you become who you are and that you can share with our listeners, basically something that would be top five in terms of what you enjoy reading.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:54:26    Yeah, well, I wish I had known about this ahead of time. I 

would’ve done more research. There are so many different books that I’ve read that have helped me, but honestly, what I really love reading, and I know this is not gonna be helpful to people. I love nonfiction books. I really do. I love reading about people. I love reading about history and just learning about how people, uh, have lived in this world. And I just find that it opens me up to understanding other people more. And I know I’m not really answering any specifics. I apologize for that, but it really is more of a global answer for me. I just like learning about the world. What I find is when I read about people who grew up in other parts of the world, it helps me see that this world really is a much smaller place I travel or at least I used to, uh, hopefully pretty soon I can start traveling again, mm-hmm <affirmative> doing in person workshops and whether I’m in South Africa doing workshops or Australia doing workshops or Mexico throughout north America, I just find that from everything that I’ve read, it just allows me to appreciate people who have different customs, different ideas, different ne you know, maybe different ways of life than me.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:55:49    I don’t know. It just makes me feel like we’re all human beings here. And yeah, we might do things differently and things like that, but ultimately we’re all just human beings trying to live a good life on planet earth here. And so, I’m sorry. I really don’t have a specific book to tell you. I like my book, how to become a successful actor or model, but I don’t know that that changed my life <laugh> but no, like I said, I just really love learning about the world and people, and it just gives me a better understanding of folks. It allows me to deal with people in a better way. So firstly, I just like non-fiction work.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:56:28    Thank you for sharing that. I do think that it’s an important message. There’s a lot to learn and you can’t exactly pinpoint how it helps you, but just as you said, uh, help is pretty much spread out throughout your entire life, uh, and the benefits that you get out of it. So, um, it’s definitely very valuable. So I appreciate you sharing that. Do you have any last thoughts or comments that you would like to share with our listeners before we end here?  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:56:56    Yeah, I would. And first of all, too, I just wanted to say thank you so much for reaching out to me. 

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:57:00    The pleasure is mine.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:57:01    Uh, it’s been such a lovely, I just love the way that you hear answers and then respond back to them. It’s really great. I’ve had a really, really nice time with you. Hey, if I was just gonna leave one thing for all the listeners, here’s what it is. This is something I learned a long time ago. No, doesn’t mean never. And I think in any business it’s really important. Like we had touched on earlier. You can’t take anything personally in this business and it is true. No doesn’t mean never because there have been places that have said no to me a lot of times and you know, look, you keep staying in touch with people and you keep getting back in touch and you maybe offer new ideas all of a sudden, not to say that it’s going to change, but it’s happened to me a number of times where I’ve applied to certain agencies, they’ve said no.  

 

Aaron Marcus    00:57:54    And for whatever reason, maybe now I’m they like my headshot more. They like my resume more. Maybe the other agent that had said no to me, they’re no longer working there. Maybe they need more people of my type who knows, but no doesn’t mean never. And so if that happens to you, you just keep going and keep moving forward and try to learn from every experience, both positive and negative. And most importantly, just enjoy what you’re doing that is otherwise, it’s really tough to put in the kind of work that we all do. Anybody who has a successful business, you have to put in the time and appreciate the people around you who have helped you and have helped you make yourself successful as well.  

 

Tudor Dumitrescu     00:58:40    That’s a great message. And thank you for sharing the it’s really about the power of perseverance and that’s really inspiring. Thank you Aaron, for coming on. It’s been a pleasure. And I think that this episode is going to be super valuable to our audience. So thank you very much. And for our listeners stay tuned for the next episode. And until next time, remember to keep growing your business and providing massive value to the world. You are the reason why we’re all growing richer. Our freedoms are expanding and we’re all living in greater prosperity. Thank you.

 

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